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You've been hurt in the past. Now, you've met this great guy. Learn how you can trust your gut again.

You're getting older. You are starting to feel it's time to settle down. But, how will you know for sure, if he's the one you want? Yeah, your friends and family like him. But, how do you feel about him?

It's easy to look at the more obvious things, like what kind of job he has or how he looks. You'll find in the long run those things can turn out to be superficial. This doesn't mean they aren't important, but there is more to a man. Meaning, more to the man that is for you.

He's the one you want. How will you know for sure?

My parents managed to stay together for nearly 59 years. I watched them go through a lot of highs and lows. But, in the end they had each other's back. That's what stood out to me the most.

Here are 7 subtle signs he's the one you want:

  1.  He doesn't try to change you. There is nothing worse than feeling like your partner is trying to change you. He know you love cats, and that is okay. He knows that you grew up with cats, and this has meaning to you. So, he will make sure there is always a cat in your life. He knows you inside and out, and he accepts you inside and out. This is…

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"How can I reduce my stress level?" It's actually not impossible. Here are a 10 simple tips.

This is a question I get a lot in my practice. Unfortunately, people are more stressed out these days than ever. I know you feel like you can't slow down. But, if you don't your body and your mind will eventually give out.

This can show up as physical problems or emotional problems. You may feel like you can't stop, even for 5-10 minutes. If you feel this way, then the stress in your life is taking over. If you don't stop now, it will get worse.

"How can I reduce my stress level?"

This question keeps going through your mind. It's actually a good thing that you are asking this question. 

Here are 10 simple tips to help you reduce your stress level:

 

  1. Get more sleep. Sleep deprivation is a huge problem. Studies have shown that you need 7-10 hours of sleep. You think you will get more done when you sleep less, and be more productive. But, you will actually make more mistakes. This will make you less productive. Make sure to turn off electronic gadgets an hour before bed, and avoid caffeine. Take a warm bath and read a relaxing book before bed.

  2. Try relaxation techniques. Start with 5 minutes of deep breathing. Go to a quiet place or outside where you won't be disturbed. You can also try progressive relaxation.…

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Don't let social media ruin a perfectly good relationship.

Who would of known that social media would of taken over like it has. I don't think it's going away anytime soon. This means you need to get used to it. I've always felt if you don't want people to know something about you, then don't post it on social media.

Does social media damage your relationship?

Sounds simple, but you know that is not always the case. I hear this a lot, someone posted something. You thought it was harmless, but then your partners feelings were hurt. If this keeps happening, it will drive a wedge in the relationship.

You also want to be careful about playing the comparison game on social media. People post their best side first on social media. You may feel like all of your friends and family on social media have an amazing life. That is not always the case. Just as you don't post what's going wrong in your life, neither do your friends and family.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think social media is a bad thing. But, you shouldn't take it too seriously. If you are playing the comparison game, you will never win. This will leave you feeling depleted and empty. 

Here are 6 things you don't want to post on social media while in a relationship:

  1. You don't want to overshare. A lot of people…

Read more: Learn How Social Media Damages Your Relationship

Learn how to take care of yourself, and not feel guilty about it.

It can happen to anyone. You hear about it all the time. Unfortunately, depression is on the rise. If you suffer from depression, you aren't alone. Like many people you're calendar is probably packed, and you don't feel like you can set aside time for yourself.

You need to take care of the kids, clean the house, cook dinner, finish that last minute project at work and so on. When will it end? Is what you're thinking. This doesn't give your mind a chance to rest.

After a while, you begin to feel down. You may feel like you aren't appreciated. If you don't get help for this, it can lead to intrusive thoughts. Such as, 'I don't fit in or I'm simply not good enough. This is when your mind begins to lie to you, and you don't want to believe it.

Start to tell yourself, it's okay to take care of yourself.

It is not selfish to take care of yourself. If you don't, you will eventually crash.

Here are 5 tips for taking care of yourself when you are feeling depressed:

  1. Start by taking care of the basics.You need at least 8 hours of sleep every night. You need to drink plenty of water, and eat nutrient rich foods. Make exercise a habit in your life. Make sure you get some natural…

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Learn how self-care is the key to a happier relationship.

At the beginning of a relationship, everything is great. You can't wait to see your partner at the end of the day. But, after a while things change. 

You may be working longer hours, after that promotion. You bought a new house. You have a couple of children that need your attention. Somehow, you put everyone else first in your life. This leaves you last on the list.

If you continue to do this, it will come out in your relationship. You will begin to feel distant from your partner. This can cause resentment. You don't feel like you are having fun in your life anymore.

I know you need to do the dishes, take the kids to school and go to the grocery store. You’re thinking how can I fit anytime in for me? Or, my husband never helps out around the house anymore, and the house still needs to be taken care of. So, you must do all the chores. Again, how can you carve out a few minutes for yourself?

Here are 11 self-care tips for a happier relationship:

  1. Stop, and take a deep breathe.This can help reduce cortisol levels, which can help reduce stress and anxiety. If you can, close your eyes and try to clear your mind. Just focus on your breath. Pay attention to where it is in…

Read more: 11 Self-Care Tips For A Happier Relationship

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