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You can learn how to solve relationship problems without breaking up. There is hope.

Are you having problems in your relationship? If you answered yes, you aren’t alone. Even the best of couples, have relationship problems. It’s easy to feel stressed out these days. You have a family and a job. So, where does your relationship fit in? Many people go into a relationship, thinking it will make them happy and reduce stress. Many couples find out, this is not the case.

You can learn how to solve relationship problems without breaking up.

At first it is bliss. Your partner can’t do anything wrong. But, after a while things change. You begin to see your partner as a real human being, flaws and all. This may start to make you feel unloved and stressed out.

Here are 7 tips on how to solve relationship problems without breaking up:

  1. Don’t be afraid to talk it out. Society teaches us that when you go into a relationship, everything will just work out. Wrong. You need to tell your partner what you need. What you like, what you don’t like. Keep talking about it, until you can come to a compromise that works for both of you. Humans are always changing, learn to work through your differences.

  2. Stop comparing yourself to other couples. This is an easy one to do. Everyone has done this at one time or another. When you do this you will never…

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Is he the one who got away? Learn how you can tell the difference.

I know this isn't an easy question. 'Is He The One Who Got Away?'

You’ve been seeing this guy for a while, and he has been hinting that he is ready to take the relationship to the next level. But, you just aren’t sure if he is the one for you. It’s alright to question your relationship.

Maybe, it’s not the right time or you just aren’t feeling that emotional connection that you really need. You used to look forward to his phone calls at the end of the day, but now they just exhaust you. It used to be exciting to hear about every last detail of his life, but now it’s just boring. You’re not quite sure how this happened but it did.

Here are 6 tips that will help you make one of the most important decisions of your life:

 

  1. Do you wonder if he knows what matters most to you? You have been with him long enough, where he knows your belief system. He also knows why you have the belief system you have. For example, every Monday night you go out singing with some of your closest friends. You do this because you enjoy their company, but you also do this because it reminds you of when you were younger and were the lead singer in a band. If he doesn’t…

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You can reduce stress with effective planning. Take it day by day.

Effective planning, what does that mean? You have to work, a husband and a house to take care of. So, what does that mean for your kids? Everyone has told you that your kids are a gift. But, what if you are feeling overwhelmed with your family? I have worked with many kids and couples. Let me tell you, if you are feeling overwhelmed you aren’t alone.

Reducing stress with effective planning, is not only good for your it's good for your family.

In our society you are led to believe you are a bad person, if you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed out by being a parent. You are also led to believe that you can do it all. In reality, no one is superwoman. If you continue to think this way, it will lead to you feeling burn out.

In our fast paced society,, a lot of people don’t want to slow down. This creates stress. If you ask me, it creates a lot of unnecessary stress. You are so worried about getting ahead, that you forget to have fun. Fun is good for you. It can change your mood and your mindset. Parenting is an important job, but you don’t want to lose yourself in the process.

Here are 6 tips that can help you reduce stress in your life, now:

 

  1. Don’t believe the lie…

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Learn what you can do to if you can't decide if he's the one for you.

What will you do? You can’t decide if he’s the one. You’ve been hurt in the past, and you wonder if you can now pick a good one. You need to realize you have grown since your last relationship. You are more insightful. You have a better idea of what your red flags are. That is really a good thing.

'What to do if you can't decide he's the one for you?'

You don’t want to settle, and you don’t have to. You can trust your gut. You know what you don’t want.

It's actually a good thing that you are questioning the relationship. This means you take it seriously. I know you want this one to last. So, how will you know when you should take the next steps. Whether you want to move in together, or just go for it and walk down the aisle. Here are some helpful tips, when making that big decision.

What To Do If You Can’t Decide If He’s The One For You, Here are 7 Tips:

  1. He’s seen you at your worst, and hasn’t left. He stuck with you when you got fired from your job, and your roommate suddenly moved out. You really had a breakdown at that time. But, that didn’t scare him away. He was there for you. He listened to you. You could…

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Taking care of yourself as a mother, will not only help you but it will help your family.

You take care of everyone else. So, why aren't you taking care of yourself as a mother?

I know you know about putting your oxygen mask on first in an airplane. So, why are you putting yours on last? In the end you aren’t helping anyone.

You live in a fast paced world. You are taught that more is better. But, there is a cost. The cost is your physical and emotional health. It’s time to start putting yourself first. Now, don’t misunderstand me. This doesn’t mean fall short on your responsibilities. This means start setting boundaries.

Are you starting to wonder why you are feeling burnt out, and don’t enjoy your family anymore? If you answered yes, then you are definitely in the danger zone. If you don’t change now, you will definitely regret it. You could end up depressed or ridden with anxiety.

Here are 8 tips to help you start taking care of yourself as a mother:

  1. Spend time with friends and family. These are the people that support you the most. The next time you are feeling stressed out, give one of them a call. Instead of talking about what is stressing you out, talk about what you like. Let them know about the latest podcast you just heard, or about the friendly guy you were talking to in the grocery store line. If…

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