Reducing Stress

How To Get Through The Holiday Season & Not Kill Anyone

By Lianne Avila / December 5, 2016 /

Summer is over and fall is here. This means change is near or has already started. For some, it may have never stopped. With busy work schedules and children is school, you may never feel like you have any time for yourself. Next, the holiday season will be here, and we will all be wondering…

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10 Tips To Get Your Stress Under Control

By Lianne Avila / November 7, 2016 /

We all know what it feels like to be stressed. Stress can happen for many different reasons. Deadlines at work, taking care of the children, paying the bills, etc. Nobody is exempt from stress. And, while some stress might be good, meaning it might help push you a bit. Too much of stress, is not…

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5 Tips That Will Help You When The World Feels Overwhelming

By Lianne Avila / November 3, 2016 /

We’ve all felt overwhelmed at one time or another. This can last a day, week, month or a year. That feeling of being overwhelmed, just doesn’t go away. For whatever reason, going to work or just getting through the day can feel really hard. Maybe, there is an environment stressor, or you are struggling with…

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Why Gratitude Is The Key To Getting What You Want In Life

By Lianne Avila / May 23, 2016 /

Maybe you weren’t expecting this but I’m going to talk about depression in this article. Depression affects many people. The Centers for Disease Control estimates that 19 million Americans suffer from it. At some point in their life, 10%-25% of women will become depressed and 5%-12% of men will become depressed. Depression isn’t fun and…

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Can The Four Horsemen Affect Workplace Relationships, Too?

By Lianne Avila / October 26, 2015 /

The answer is yes. Let’s review what The Four Horsemen are: Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling. They are the four biggest predictors of divorce. This is based from The Gottmans research. They have done over four decades of research in working with couples. They have found that there is overlap into the workplace. They have…

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How To Conquer Your Inner Dragon

By Lianne Avila / July 20, 2015 /

“Always speak politely to an enraged dragon.” Steven Brust As a therapist, I hear it all the time. ‘I just can’t do this, or I’m just not good enough, etc.’ It’s easy to put yourself down. We all have an inner dialogue, it’s natural. Unfortunately, many people use it to beat themselves up. This can really…

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5 Ways To Eliminate Stress AT Work

By Lianne Avila / June 29, 2015 /

In today’s society, we are faced with many stresses at the work place. Will the company that you’re working at down size? There are many interruptions, which makes it difficult to focus. If you work in a cube, you may be tired of hearing the person next to you argue with their spouse on the…

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How To Turn A Bad Day Into A Good Day

By Lianne Avila / June 1, 2015 /

We’ve all been there. Slept through the alarm clock, car is low on fuel, forgot to pick up coffee, the baby won’t stop crying, etc. Minor things can trigger bad days. As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have found it’s best not to catastrophize. Don’t let the small things ruin a perfectly good day.…

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You Are What You Think

By Lianne Avila / April 27, 2015 /

I went out to dinner with a couple of friends last night, and as we were chatting one of my friends made a comment that she needs to change the chatter in her head. She needs to stop putting herself down and telling herself that she is stupid and ugly. I immediately complimented her. She…

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10 Things Mentally Strong People Do

By Lianne Avila / April 6, 2015 /

Let’s face it life doesn’t always go our way. Regardless, of who you are life is full of surprises. It’s best to embrace change and keep moving on. Here are ten tips that can help when life get’s tough: They keep in control. They don’t give away their power.  They stay happy. They don’t complain.…

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