Reducing Stress

It’s All About Balance

By Lianne Avila | January 12, 2015

“Perhaps there could be no joy on this planet without an equal weight of pain to balance it out on some unknown scale.” Stephanie MeyerWe’re all searching for balance, although this may sound simple, in our work hard culture. We hear about people burning out all the time, maybe, you feel burnt out. We can’t go back, so there is no point in dwelling over the past. Here are four helpful tips for balance in The New Year: Pick your priorities. Many of us grew up with our parents telling us we can have it all. Although, I’m for having…

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Practice Gratitude During The Holidays

By Lianne Avila | December 15, 2014

It’s no joke; the antidote for depression is gratitude. Remember the small things and be grateful for them. The Holiday season isn’t just about receiving it’s also about giving. Studies show that people feel good when they volunteer for those that are less fortunate. I challenge you to pick one non-profit to volunteer for during the holiday season. Make sure to include your family and friends. Here are five tips to help you practice gratitude during the Holidays: Focus on what you do have. Stop comparing yourself to others. This will only make you feel bad. Remember, there is always…

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A Holiday Recipe For Holiday Stress

By Lianne Avila | December 1, 2014

Happy December, it’s that time of year, again. The Holiday’s can be a great time, but they can also be a stressful time. You may be traveling or having people over. And, the shopping, making sure you buy just the right gift for everyone on your list can be a bit overwhelming. It’s also a time to see friends and family members that you haven’t seen in a while. For some this is a good thing, for others it isn’t. Wherever you fall in this category don’t let the Holiday’s control you and take over. Here is a simple recipe…

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Five Signs You Have Anxiety

By Lianne Avila | October 14, 2014

We all get nervous or anxious, now and then. But, what happens when the worrying doesn’t go away? Here are five signs that you may have an anxiety disorder of some type: Excessive worry. This is when the anxiety is so bad that it interferes with everyday life. It interferes with your work and relationships. Your mind just won’t stop. You’re driven by fear and it usually has a bad ending. It’s having that feeling of heading south on the 101 and suddenly there is a car in front of you heading north, almost all the time. Sleep problems. It’s…

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Don’t Let Your Emotions Control Your Life

By Lianne Avila | August 4, 2014

“Remaining optimistic will help me experience joy.” Is it time for a new outlook on life. Don’t worry; many of us have done it. We let our mood take over and let go of our rational side. It’s never too late to change. Just as negative behavior is contagious, so is positive behavior. Start by surrounding yourself with positive people. Write positive affirmations and place them on your night stand, in your car and on your desk. Make sure you place them where you will see them throughout the day. Here are five helpful tips to help control your emotions:…

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Five Ways to Build a Positive Attitude

By Lianne Avila | May 26, 2014

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt Life is much more enjoyable when you have a positive attitude. Believe it or not, it’s actually not that difficult. When you stop beating yourself up with your internal dialogue it will change your outlook on your life. Here are five tips to help improve your attitude: The choice is yours. Your life is the result of your choices. You can choose to let the balance in your back account bring you down or you can look for opportunities for challenge and diversity. Choose to focus on what…

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Let Love Grow

By Lianne Avila | April 7, 2014

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” William James We live in such a fast paced world. We are always in a rush. We are always looking for ways to make things faster and more effective. Speed is key in our society. As a result, this has taken a toll on our relationships. We have seen the divorce rate sky rocket and we have more disease than ever. Many doctors have told us this is because of stress. Here are five tips to help lower the stress in your life and help build…

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Give Up Stinkin’ Thinkin’ For Lent

By Lianne Avila | March 10, 2014

“You must manage yourself before you can lead someone else.” Zig Ziglar Yeah, daylight savings time is here, and if you can’t tell, I absolutely love it. Lent has also started. I’m sure you’ve thought about what you’re going to give up for Lent. Some people give up sugar, chocolate, wine, bread, etc. I could go on with a list of things to give up. I’ve been telling people to give up give up their cognitive distortions (aka stinkin’ thinkin’) for Lent. Here are ten cognitive distortions you absolutely must give up for Lent: All-or-nothing thinking: You look at things…

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Sharing Power and Accepting Influence in Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila | January 27, 2014

It’s not always about being right. In the Gottman’s research we have found that in order to gain influence you need to accept influence. This means trying new things that your partner suggests or trying things the way your partner does things, for a change. Relationships don’t need to be difficult or about power struggles. They need to be about nurturing the friendship and accepting one another’s differences. Nobody is perfect; this is not an expectation you should have in a relationship. If you do, then you are setting it up for failure. Whenever we see a couple we give…

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Five Tips to Help You Through the Holiday Season

By Lianne Avila | December 2, 2013

It’s hard to believe that December is already here. The holiday season can be a wonderful season, but it can also be a crazy season. The media has really taken over. Stores open on Thanksgiving, sales everywhere and lines of people waiting to buy that one last gift. Sometimes, we are so busy taking care of everyone else that we forget about ourselves. This can also be a time where people get run down and stressed out. Here are five tips that will help make the holidays more enjoyable: Loneliness? Plan a date with You. Many people don’t have family…

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