Relationship Challenges

Self-Care In Your Relationship

7 Tips To Practice Self-Care In Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila | March 10, 2020

It’s easy to put everyone else first. When you put yourself last, you will start to feel resentful. This will lead to anxiety and stress. It can also lead to physical symptoms, such as headaches and stomach aches. Practicing self-care in your relationship doesn’t have to be difficult. We are social animals, and you are wired to connect with others. This is not a bad thing. But, you do want to be careful. Don’t let it get the best of you. It’s alright to set boundaries. This means having good self-care habits. Self-care is something you practice daily. It’s taking...

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Learn how pets are good for your relationship.

5 Reasons Pets Can Help Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila | January 6, 2020

Is a pet good for your relationship? The great pet debate has been going on for years. Sure, they provide companionship and they will love you unconditionally. Pets are also a good way to see how you would work together as a couple raising a child. Pets can help your relationship. I myself am a pet lover. I grew up with cats and dogs, and for a time bunnies. They provided unconditional love to me throughout my childhood and into adulthood. Now, I am a cat owner. One of the best things at the end of the day is coming...

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Learn what the top 5 selfish behaviors are in a relationship.

5 Selfish Behaviors To STOP Now In Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila | December 3, 2019

Relationships require empathy and altruism. I’m sure everyone at some time or another has felt they are in a relationship with a selfish person. I’m not just talking about a romantic partner. This could be a colleague, friend or family member. We’ve all been there. But, have you ever stopped and thought that you may be the selfish person? Are your own behaviors in your relationship holding you back? How altruistic are you? Studies have found that holding the door open for a stranger and paying your loved ones back on Venmo, demonstrate altruistic behavior. Studies have also found that...

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Learn how reading with your partner will increase the intimacy in your relationship.

10 Benefits For Couples That Read Together

By Lianne Avila | November 14, 2019

It’s no secret that reading stimulates the brain. But, did you know that there are benefits for your relationship when you read a book with your partner? Studies have found that couples that read together are happier. Couples that read together have less stress. Unfortunately, people are more stressed out than they have ever been. This is because you are constantly plugged in. You are on your cell phone, computer, or whatever electronic gadget is nearby. This means that you are always on. You aren’t a machine. You can’t go forever. If you don’t stop, eventually you will collapse. Think...

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Take better care of yourself, today. This will help you and your family.

10 Ways To Take Better Care Of Yourself When You Are In A Relationship

By Lianne Avila | October 15, 2019

Having too much stress, can negatively impact your life. Especially your relationship. When you feel overwhelmed, you may start to disconnect. When this happens your partner will begin to feel left out. Your partner may also feel they have done something wrong. But, in reality you are feeling overwhelmed from the stress in your life. I see this happen a lot. Life takes over and you put everyone else first. If this goes on too long, you will begin to feel burnt out. Take better care of yourself, today. Self-care is taking care of your mind, body, and soul. Start...

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Learn what some of the most common relationship problems are, and what you can do about them.

What Are Common Relationship Problems?

By Lianne Avila | September 24, 2019

Relationship problems are a fact of life. After the honeymoon phase is over, problems begin. This doesn’t mean you have to give up. Take a close look at your relationship. Where do you spend most of your time? Are you caught up with the children, or focusing on work? What are common relationship problems? One of the most common problems I see in my practice, is an inability to manage conflict. Dr. John Gottman is a premier researcher on relationships. It’s not surprising that he found all couples have conflict. What’s important is that you repair after the conflict and...

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You can solve relationship problems without breaking up. Here are a few simple tips.

How To Solve Relationship Problems Without Breaking Up

By Lianne Avila | September 17, 2019

There are times where your relationship will feel stressful. You may feel overwhelmed. Not only do you have your relationship to manage, you have outside stressors as well to manage. All relationships go through highs and lows. What’s important is that you can manage the lows in your relationship. Keep in mind that relationships go through cycles. Once you get over one bump, there will be a time that you come upon another one. You can solve relationship problems without breaking up. The good news is that you can learn from your mistakes. These are called lessons. Here are 5...

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Don't let social media ruin a perfectly good relationship.

Learn How Social Media Damages Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila | August 20, 2019

Who would of known that social media would of taken over like it has. I don’t think it’s going away anytime soon. This means you need to get used to it. I’ve always felt if you don’t want people to know something about you, then don’t post it on social media. Does social media damage your relationship? Sounds simple, but you know that is not always the case. I hear this a lot, someone posted something. You thought it was harmless, but then your partners feelings were hurt. If this keeps happening, it will drive a wedge in the relationship....

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Your relationship will change. Learn how you can get through it.

Why Do Relationships Change?

By Lianne Avila | May 26, 2019

Your relationship will change over time. There are many different reasons as to why your relationship will change. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, then you know that the honeymoon phase will end. The good news is, this is when you will begin to grow. Everyone has shortcomings. It’s important to build a culture of understanding in your relationship. This will help build a long lasting relationship. Why do relationships change? There isn’t a simple answer. As couples get closer to one another, their negative traits begin to stand out. Your relationship feels routine and is less...

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Learn how relationships problems cause anxiety, and what you can do about it.

Can Relationship Problems Cause Anxiety?

By Lianne Avila | March 31, 2019

More and more you are hearing about anxiety. What this means is that you are stressed out. When you are stressed out and you don’t have a coping mechanism, it will turn into anxiety. So, can relationship problems cause anxiety? The answer is yes. Learn what you can do about it before it’s too late. Studies show that couples wait a minimum of seven years before they go to therapy for their relationship problems. What does this mean? You may already have an anxiety disorder. The truth of the matter is, that if you wait too long you might not...

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