Relationship Challenges

7 Ways To Build Trust In Your Relationship To Increase Friendship & Intimacy

By Lianne Avila | July 13, 2020

QS Bathroom Supplies recently studied trust in a relationship. The results were amazing. Couples had more off-limits items and banned chores in the home, than one would think. The study was called, Don’t Touch My Stuff. The number one item that couples had off-limits were their smartphone. The number one reason the smartphone was off-limits, was because they didn’t want their partner using it. Items two and three, were computers and cash. They found most of the couples studied felt this way at the beginning. But, if they didn’t loosen up it was because their partner lost it or damaged...

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I Think My Husband Is Depressed. What Should I do?

By Lianne Avila | May 4, 2020

When someone you love suffers from depression, you can feel confused. You may not know what to do, and that is alright. You may even feel angry, or like you just want to leave. My husband is depressed, and I just don’t know what to do. If your partner is depressed, then it will effect you. I’m hear to tell you the feelings you are having are normal. The depressed partner may feel everything is normal, but you don’t. You may feel like your feelings aren’t validated by your partner. You may also feel like you have done something wrong,...

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10 Ways To Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship

By Lianne Avila | April 13, 2020

It’s easy to get caught up in your thoughts. What your mind says is not always true. This is known as a cognitive distortion. I see couples do this all the time. They are stuck in an old thought pattern, and it is destroying a perfectly good relationship. Don’t ruin a perfectly good relationship, with a toxic thought pattern. Toxic thought patterns will leave you with feeling stuck. You will feel like you have no way out. That is not true. Learn to look at your options and make choices that are good for you, and the relationship. Here are...

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Self-Care In Your Relationship

7 Tips To Practice Self-Care In Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila | March 10, 2020

It’s easy to put everyone else first. When you put yourself last, you will start to feel resentful. This will lead to anxiety and stress. It can also lead to physical symptoms, such as headaches and stomach aches. Practicing self-care in your relationship doesn’t have to be difficult. We are social animals, and you are wired to connect with others. This is not a bad thing. But, you do want to be careful. Don’t let it get the best of you. It’s alright to set boundaries. This means having good self-care habits. Self-care is something you practice daily. It’s taking...

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Learn how pets are good for your relationship.

5 Reasons Pets Can Help Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila | January 6, 2020

Is a pet good for your relationship? The great pet debate has been going on for years. Sure, they provide companionship and they will love you unconditionally. Pets are also a good way to see how you would work together as a couple raising a child. Pets can help your relationship. I myself am a pet lover. I grew up with cats and dogs, and for a time bunnies. They provided unconditional love to me throughout my childhood and into adulthood. Now, I am a cat owner. One of the best things at the end of the day is coming...

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Learn what the top 5 selfish behaviors are in a relationship.

5 Selfish Behaviors To STOP Now In Your Relationship

By Lianne Avila | December 3, 2019

Relationships require empathy and altruism. I’m sure everyone at some time or another has felt they are in a relationship with a selfish person. I’m not just talking about a romantic partner. This could be a colleague, friend or family member. We’ve all been there. But, have you ever stopped and thought that you may be the selfish person? Are your own behaviors in your relationship holding you back? How altruistic are you? Studies have found that holding the door open for a stranger and paying your loved ones back on Venmo, demonstrate altruistic behavior. Studies have also found that...

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Learn how reading with your partner will increase the intimacy in your relationship.

10 Benefits For Couples That Read Together

By Lianne Avila | November 14, 2019

It’s no secret that reading stimulates the brain. But, did you know that there are benefits for your relationship when you read a book with your partner? Studies have found that couples that read together are happier. Couples that read together have less stress. Unfortunately, people are more stressed out than they have ever been. This is because you are constantly plugged in. You are on your cell phone, computer, or whatever electronic gadget is nearby. This means that you are always on. You aren’t a machine. You can’t go forever. If you don’t stop, eventually you will collapse. Think...

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Take better care of yourself, today. This will help you and your family.

10 Ways To Take Better Care Of Yourself When You Are In A Relationship

By Lianne Avila | October 15, 2019

Having too much stress, can negatively impact your life. Especially your relationship. When you feel overwhelmed, you may start to disconnect. When this happens your partner will begin to feel left out. Your partner may also feel they have done something wrong. But, in reality you are feeling overwhelmed from the stress in your life. I see this happen a lot. Life takes over and you put everyone else first. If this goes on too long, you will begin to feel burnt out. Take better care of yourself, today. Self-care is taking care of your mind, body, and soul. Start...

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Learn what some of the most common relationship problems are, and what you can do about them.

What Are Common Relationship Problems?

By Lianne Avila | September 24, 2019

Relationship problems are a fact of life. After the honeymoon phase is over, problems begin. This doesn’t mean you have to give up. Take a close look at your relationship. Where do you spend most of your time? Are you caught up with the children, or focusing on work? What are common relationship problems? One of the most common problems I see in my practice, is an inability to manage conflict. Dr. John Gottman is a premier researcher on relationships. It’s not surprising that he found all couples have conflict. What’s important is that you repair after the conflict and...

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You can solve relationship problems without breaking up. Here are a few simple tips.

How To Solve Relationship Problems Without Breaking Up

By Lianne Avila | September 17, 2019

There are times where your relationship will feel stressful. You may feel overwhelmed. Not only do you have your relationship to manage, you have outside stressors as well to manage. All relationships go through highs and lows. What’s important is that you can manage the lows in your relationship. Keep in mind that relationships go through cycles. Once you get over one bump, there will be a time that you come upon another one. You can solve relationship problems without breaking up. The good news is that you can learn from your mistakes. These are called lessons. Here are 5...

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