Relationship Challenges
You heard it right. If you don’t know what the negative sentiment override is, then let me tell you. The Gottmans have done over four decades of research with couples. They found that couples either have the positive sentiment override, or the negative sentiment override. When you are stuck in the negative sentiment override, 50% of the time you don’t notice the positive in the relationship. Meaning, even when things are going well the relationship is ridden with the negative sentiment override. When the relationship is in the positive sentiment override. You know when your husband tells you he’ll be...
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Men and women have been arguing about money since the beginning of time. Maybe, you make a lot of money, maybe you don’t. Whether you do or not, you still have your differences about money. Is your partner more of a saver? Are you more of a spender? You can have your differences about money and still have a happy marriage. What you first need to do is take a close look at why money causes relationship problems. Do you avoid talking about these issues? Do you hide the credit card bill? Do you tell your child not to tell...
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How do you show love to your partner? That is the question. What is the first thing you think of when you hear, 10 ways to love someone? Most of the time you show love the way you receive love. For example, if you like to touch, then you may hold your partners hand. If you like to receive compliments, then you may compliment your partner on how smart they are. There are many ways to show love. What’s important is that your partner gets that you are showing and expressing love towards them. If you have been in a...
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Is money the root of all evil? Can you learn why money causes problems in your relationship? That really is the question. How often do you come across somebody that doesn’t want to make more money? I’m sure you probably want to make more money yourself. But, then what happens? You no sooner start making more money, and it’s not enough. Perfect example of money causing problems. So, how does this play out in your relationship? Whether both people in a relationship work outside the home, or one works outside the home. Money matters will always come up in a...
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When you think about a lifelong commitment, what do you think about? Is it a perfect home, perfect family or a perfect job. Maybe, it’s all three. Or, do you think of happily waking up to the next one you love? If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, then you know this is not what a lifelong commitment is about. After being in a relationship for a while, you begin to let your guard down. Maybe, you don’t jump up and brush your teeth first thing in the morning. You start to put off the chores and indulge...
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When was the last time you took a look at your emotional bank account? Have you ever looked at your relationship as a bank account? Like any bank account the more deposits you make, the more it grows. You can also make withdrawals. You need to be careful here. Like any bank account, if you make too many withdrawals without making any deposits, then your bank account will become overdrawn and is at risk of closing. It’s important to make a lot of small deposits along the way. If you make a large deposit without making any small deposits, it...
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The dreaded news, that you didn’t want to hear. Yes, this really happened to you. You aren’t sure how to handle relationship problems after a miscarriage. Maybe, this was your first time being pregnant. The first stage is, ‘I can’t believe this is happening to me.’ This is actually exactly how you should feel. There is nothing wrong with your feelings. Now, the anger is setting in. ‘WHY, WHY, WHY.’ Anger is a natural feeling to have. Everyone has it. Allow yourself to feel your feelings. You can’t sweep everything under the carpet. You ask yourself, ‘what could you have...
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You are led to believe that when you make more money, you will be happier. So, you work your ass off. But, now you have relationship problems because of work. When you get a raise you are worried about the next raise. What this means, is that more money doesn’t mean you will be happy. You can also put your health at risk. When was the last time you had a good night’s sleep? Or, spent quality time with your family? If this continues, your relationship will start to suffer. You don’t want to let work drive a wedge in...
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Let’s face it Facebook is one of the most popular social networking sites around. You can share almost anything you want, and at the same time learn a lot about your friends and family. You can also connect with old friends from the past. This can be a lot of fun. But, at the same time it can cause you to feel insecure. If you are in a relationship, and you start to see your friends and family photos of relationships. That probably shows them happy and in love all the time. You may start to feel insecure about your...
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I’m sure by now you’ve all heard about depression. You know how depression affects you when you are feeling depressed. But, do you know how depression affects others in your life? Unfortunately, this is something people don’t talk a lot about. Recent research has found that nearly a third of Americans have or will experience some type of depression. There is one death by suicide every 12.8 minutes. Suicide is the second leading cause of death for people between the ages of 15 – 44. If you haven’t experienced depression yourself, you may know someone or be close to someone...
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