When you get a raise you are worried about the next raise. What this means, is that more money doesn’t mean you will be happy. You can also put your health at risk. When was the last time you had a good night’s sleep? Or, spent quality time with your family?
If this continues, your relationship will start to suffer. You don’t want to let work drive a wedge in your relationship. What happened to fun, or when you looked forward to seeing your partner at the end of the day? If you are willing to make some changes, then there is hope.
Here are 7 tips that will help you when you have relationship problems because of work:
- Start prioritizing your family. What is more important your family, or your next deadline at work? Now, I know you need to work. But, this doesn’t mean you need to put your family last. When was the last time you had fun with your family? This can be just simply laughing together.
- Cut back on your list. Are you a list person? If you are, then you probably have 7 or 8 things a day you feel you must do. This can be overwhelming. Cut your list down to one thing. You will be able to focus on one project. You may actually have better results when you do this. You also won’t spend as much time at the office. Your family will notice, and appreciate this.
- Let others know what you need them to do. Don’t assume things will just get done. This also mean you will need to repeat yourself. That’s alright, this is how you know the job will get done. This will also help make sure everyone is on the same page. If you have plans with your family after work, let your coworkers know. This will let them know that your family is important to you. It could result in them being more respectful of your time.
- Learn to accept influence from others. Listen to your coworkers ideas and try them out. This will help decrease stress in the work environment. Everyone likes to have a part in the project. Also, accept influence from your family. Whether it is about work or about home, make sure you listen and try out their ideas.
- Take a mental health day. This means that you get away from the office and the family. If this sounds like too much, start by taking a few hours off. You can go to the gym or go for a walk. If you take the day, schedule a spa day. Your mind and body will thank you. So will your coworkers and family. You will feel refreshed and have a better attitude.
- Give yourself a break. It’s easy to work through the day, and not take one break. Everybody needs to take breaks. This will help clear your mind, and will keep your more focused a the office and at home. If you need to, schedule your breaks. Set an alarm, so you will remember. Start with 10 minutes and then work up to 20 minutes. A break means no electronics gadgets, and away from your desk. If the weather is nice, then get outside. You could really use the extra Vitamin D.
- Eat nutrient rich foods. What you eat affects your brain. Too many carbs will make you feel lethargic. Too much caffeine will make you feel anxious. You need to eat a balanced diet. Make sure you have enough protein, fruits, vegetables and healthy carbs. Make sure your drink plenty of water. Stay away from sugar and caffeine. You don’t want to rely on them to get you through the day. You also don’t want to starve yourself during the day. When you go home you will binge. This is not good for you, and can cause health problems in the long run.
Work doesn’t have to take over your life. Start with just one of these tips today. Not only will your family appreciate it, so will your coworkers. Remember, to go easy on yourself. Remind yourself that you are a good person, whether you get the promotion or not.
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Lianne Avila is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, in San Mateo, CA. She has helped many people create a work, life balance for themselves. For more information, please call (650) 892-0357 or email Lianne@LessonsforLove.com.